Welcome. And also, congratulations. You’ve reached a point in your life where you’ve felt compelled to click on something with Toilet in the title. What brings you here? Not here specifically, although I’m glad to have you and all, but I mean, what state of affairs is your life in that you want to read…
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Reading over some of the posts I’ve written, it stood out to me that something that features in a lot of them is guilt. Guilt about work mostly, and missing a lot of time with them, guilt about how I deal with meltdowns, guilt about doing it all wrong. When those waves of guilt appear…
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20 things that women should stop wearing after the age of 30: 1-20: The weight of other people’s expectations and judgements. Maura Quint ‘Oh Mama, you’re just so squishy!’ Rian first said this to me months ago, he spontaneously ran over to me, flung his arms around my legs, squeezed me as hard as his…
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This isn’t really a story about a seagull and a fish. More, it’s a story of how a seagull and a fish made me cry a little bit this evening. Out of nowhere, while reading one of our absolute favourite books, probably my favourite one actually – The Snail and The Whale. The story (by…
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“What would you do if you weren’t afraid?” -Sheryl Sandberg Maybe it’s just me, or maybe it’s not me but just a phase I’m going through right now. Whatever ‘it’ is, it has me feeling very uncertain about things in my life at the moment. Maybe it’s because 40 is hurtling down the road at…
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I could easily understand that if anyone happens to read some of my blog posts and doesn’t have children, that they’d read along and wonder why on earth anyone would want to have them. We complain constantly about the hard parts; the sleepless nights, the exhaustion, the seemingly illogical meltdowns leaving us in constant states…
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“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched they must be felt with the heart” Helen Keller ~A letter to my sons~ Sometimes I wonder about what you’ll be like as grown men. Will you get married, will you have kids? Will you achieve all you want, will…
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When Rian was born, I used to hold him as a tiny baby during those long sleepless nights of feeding and think about what sort of little boy he’d be, what sort of teenager he’ll turn into, and what sort of man he’ll grow up to become. Back then, each stage seemed like light years…
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{Also published on The M Word } People who know me, know that I love Christmas. Actually, it’s the run up to Christmas that I particularly love – the planning, the choosing of gifts, the atmosphere and the excitement. I even have a ‘wrapping theme’ every year where I’ll carefully choose what paper and accessories…
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“The obligation for working mothers is a very precise one: the feeling that one ought to work as if one did not have children, while raising one’s children as if one did not have a job.” -Annabel Crabb, Policital Journalist {Also features on The M Word } I’m very sure there are lots of us…
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The Scenic Route 